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Unlocking Intimacy

Strategies for Revitalizing Libido in Aging Women & MenStrategies for Revitalizing Libido in Aging Women & Men

The delightful dance of time! It seems like just yesterday we were young, wild, and carefree, and now… well, now we’re just a tad more seasoned, aren’t we? But hey, who says aging can’t be an adventure?

 I stumbled upon this article the other day, all about the spicy topic of senior sexuality. But what got me is they mentioned – ages 50 plus! Now, when I think of seniors, my mind drifts back to my grandmother So, you can imagine my surprise when the term “senior” was thrown my way. Me? A senior? Ha,Ha!

But hey, let’s not get bogged down by those numbers the government likes to slap on us. Age is just a number, after all – a number we won’t let define us! Although, I wouldn’t say no to a little discount here and there, am I right? Lol

Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: as we gracefully mature (because let’s face it, we’re too fabulous to just ‘age’), our bodies and libidos decide to do a little dance of their own. It’s like they’re saying, “Hey there, we’ve been around the block a few times, let’s switch things up!” But fear not, my fellow adventurers, for this is not the end of the road – far from it!

Sure, things might not be as sprightly as they once were, but who says we can’t give ’em a run for their money? Our bodies may change, but our spirit remains ever vibrant! Besides, what’s life without a little challenge?

So, my dear friends, let’s embrace this journey with open arms. Who knows what exciting escapades await us around the corner? Whether it’s a saucy rendezvous or a thrilling new hobby, the world is our oyster, and we’re ready to crack it wide open!

And hey, if along the way we happen to stumble upon a sweet senior discount or two, well, who are we to refuse such delightful offerings? After all, a savvy adventurer knows how to make the most of every opportunity that comes their way.

Here are a couple of do’s you can incorporate into your life if you are facing some challenges:

Men:

  • Explore Sensual Activities: Instead of focusing solely on penetrative intercourse, couples can explore sensual activities that emphasize intimacy and pleasure, such as sensual massage, cuddling, kissing, or taking baths together. These activities can strengthen emotional bonds and enhance sexual satisfaction without the pressure of performance.
  • Communication and Fantasy Sharing: Open and honest communication about desires, fantasies, and preferences can ignite passion and creativity in the bedroom. Couples can explore each other’s fantasies and try role-playing, erotic storytelling, or watching erotic films together to spice up their sex life.
  • Experiment with New Techniques: Encourage couples to experiment with different sexual techniques, positions, or accessories that can enhance pleasure and excitement. Trying new things can reignite passion and curiosity, even if penetrative intercourse is not always possible.
  • Seek Professional Help: If low libido persists despite self-help strategies and lifestyle changes, encourage women to seek guidance from a sex therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health. These professionals can provide individualized assessment and treatment to address underlying issues and improve sexual desire and satisfaction.
  • Focus on Sensory Stimulation: Engage the senses to heighten arousal and pleasure. Incorporate elements such as scented candles, soft music, luxurious fabrics, flavored lubricants, or aphrodisiac foods into intimate experiences to stimulate the senses and create a more sensual atmosphere.

Women:

  • Consult with a Healthcare Provider: Women experiencing low libido should consult with a healthcare provider, such as a gynecologist or primary care physician, to rule out any underlying medical conditions contributing to decreased sexual desire. Conditions such as hormonal imbalances, thyroid disorders, menopause, or certain medications can affect libido and may require medical intervention.
  • Enhance Body Confidence: Aging can bring changes in body image and self-esteem, which can impact sexual desire. Encourage women to practice self-acceptance and focus on the aspects of themselves that they appreciate and enjoy. Engaging in activities that promote body positivity, such as exercise, self-care rituals, or spending time with supportive friends, can help boost confidence and sexual self-esteem.
  • Address Sexual Pain or Discomfort: Physical discomfort during sex, such as vaginal dryness or pain, can contribute to decreased libido. Recommend using lubricants or vaginal moisturizers to alleviate dryness and discomfort and encourage women to speak with their healthcare provider about treatments for conditions such as vaginal atrophy or pelvic floor dysfunction.
  • Explore Erotic Literature or Media: Reading erotic literature, watching erotic films, or exploring online resources can help stimulate arousal and imagination. Encourage women to explore their fantasies and desires in a safe and consensual manner, either alone or with a partner.
  • Embrace Non-Sexual Intimacy: Intimacy is not limited to sexual activity. Encourage women to cultivate emotional closeness and connection with their partner through non-sexual activities such as cuddling, hugging, kissing, or engaging in meaningful conversations. Building intimacy outside of the bedroom can help foster a deeper connection and increase the desire for sexual intimacy.

At the end of the day, we have to learn the art of Intimacy (The art of touch) being present asking the right questions, and seeking answers!

You got this!

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Embracing the Menopause rest

As a proud GenX’er, I never thought that menopause would become such a significant part of my life. It felt like a distant event that only happened to older women no I’m one. Little did I know that this transformative phase would knock on my door sooner than I anticipated. But I’ve come to realize that menopause isn’t a death sentence; instead, it’s a chance to shed my old skin and embrace a new beginning.

They say that cells regenerate every seven years, constantly renewing and building to replace damaged ones. In a way, menopause is like a reset button for our bodies, urging us to become better versions of ourselves. It’s a time to be accountable and listen to our body’s wants and needs.

Until recently, many of us, including myself, were unaware of what menopause truly entailed. We associated it with night sweats, fatigue, and dryness, but there’s so much more to it. After delving into extensive research, I came face to face with the true cause and effects of menopause, and it was eye-opening. It could make us feel less than ourselves if we don’t understand it and care for ourselves properly.

Sadly, menopause was never up for discussion in the generation before us. Just like puberty and sexual health were hush-hush topics back in the day, menopause remained hidden in the shadows. But it’s time to change that. Knowledge is power, and the more we understand about our bodies, the better we can navigate through this journey called menopause.

Interestingly, men experience their own version of menopause called Andropause, which is barely talked about as well. It’s essential to recognize that they too face some of the symptoms that women go through. So, ladies, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone in this transformative journey.

One of the most common concerns my clients bring up is their sexual health and confidence during menopause. It’s perfectly normal to feel apprehensive and unsure during this period of change. But remember, confidence is a state of mind, and we must not compare our journey to anyone else’s.

Throughout this personal odyssey of menopause, I’ve learned to prioritize my sexual health. It’s vital to have open conversations with your partner and healthcare provider to address any concerns or issues. I discovered that there are numerous resources and solutions available to enhance sexual wellness during this time. From hormonal therapies to lubricants and more, there’s a myriad of options to explore.

Equally important is embracing the changes happening in our bodies and learning to love ourselves throughout the process. Menopause is not a sign of decline but a gateway to self-discovery and growth. By nurturing our bodies with healthy habits, exercise, and self-care, we can make this journey smoother and more empowering.

So, to all my fellow GenX’ers embarking on the menopausal journey, I say this: Embrace it with an open heart and a curious mind. Take the time to understand what your body needs and honor it with compassion. Seek support from those who have walked this path before you, and don’t be afraid to share your experiences with others.

Menopause is a personal story, unique to each one of us. Let’s break the silence and shatter the taboos surrounding this transformative phase. By doing so, we empower ourselves and future generations of women to approach menopause with grace, confidence, and a sense of adventure. Embrace the menopausal reset, for it holds the key to unleashing your full potential and living life to the fullest.

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The story I would tell my younger self about intimacy.

Let me tell you a story about my younger self and my odd ways of thinking about love and relationships. (Like most women who confuse sex and love).

Back in the day, I used to think that my Vagina was some sort of magical bargaining tool that I could use to keep my partners engaged. Yeah, you heard me right, I thought that if I gave them what they wanted in the bedroom, they would stick around forever.

Wrong! No matter how much I tried to please them, they always found a way to cheat on me. And that’s when I realized that my idea of love was completely screwed up.

I thought that love was all about sex, but it wasn’t. Love was about understanding who you are and what your heart truly desires in a relationship. It’s not about manipulating your partner or trying to keep them interested by using your body.

Looking back, I can’t help but laugh at myself. I was so naive and clueless about what real love was all about. But hey, we all make mistakes, right? It’s a part of life and growing up.

Now I know that true connection comes from being honest and open with your partner. It’s about sharing your thoughts, feelings, and dreams with them. It’s about respecting each other’s boundaries and needs, and not trying to change them to fit your own desires.

So, if you’re out there thinking that sex is the key to a successful relationship, think again! Love is so much more than that. It’s about building a strong emotional bond with your partner, and that takes time, effort, and a lot of heart.

My advice to you is this: be true to yourself and what you want in a relationship. Don’t use your body as a bargaining tool, because that’s not love, that’s manipulation. Instead, focus on building a deep connection with your partner, based on honesty, trust, and mutual respect. And who knows, maybe you’ll find the true love you’ve been searching for all along!

I’m speaking to Women of all ages!