Unlocking Intimacy

Strategies for Revitalizing Libido in Aging Women & MenStrategies for Revitalizing Libido in Aging Women & Men

The delightful dance of time! It seems like just yesterday we were young, wild, and carefree, and now… well, now we’re just a tad more seasoned, aren’t we? But hey, who says aging can’t be an adventure?

 I stumbled upon this article the other day, all about the spicy topic of senior sexuality. But what got me is they mentioned – ages 50 plus! Now, when I think of seniors, my mind drifts back to my grandmother So, you can imagine my surprise when the term “senior” was thrown my way. Me? A senior? Ha,Ha!

But hey, let’s not get bogged down by those numbers the government likes to slap on us. Age is just a number, after all – a number we won’t let define us! Although, I wouldn’t say no to a little discount here and there, am I right? Lol

Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: as we gracefully mature (because let’s face it, we’re too fabulous to just ‘age’), our bodies and libidos decide to do a little dance of their own. It’s like they’re saying, “Hey there, we’ve been around the block a few times, let’s switch things up!” But fear not, my fellow adventurers, for this is not the end of the road – far from it!

Sure, things might not be as sprightly as they once were, but who says we can’t give ’em a run for their money? Our bodies may change, but our spirit remains ever vibrant! Besides, what’s life without a little challenge?

So, my dear friends, let’s embrace this journey with open arms. Who knows what exciting escapades await us around the corner? Whether it’s a saucy rendezvous or a thrilling new hobby, the world is our oyster, and we’re ready to crack it wide open!

And hey, if along the way we happen to stumble upon a sweet senior discount or two, well, who are we to refuse such delightful offerings? After all, a savvy adventurer knows how to make the most of every opportunity that comes their way.

Here are a couple of do’s you can incorporate into your life if you are facing some challenges:


  • Explore Sensual Activities: Instead of focusing solely on penetrative intercourse, couples can explore sensual activities that emphasize intimacy and pleasure, such as sensual massage, cuddling, kissing, or taking baths together. These activities can strengthen emotional bonds and enhance sexual satisfaction without the pressure of performance.
  • Communication and Fantasy Sharing: Open and honest communication about desires, fantasies, and preferences can ignite passion and creativity in the bedroom. Couples can explore each other’s fantasies and try role-playing, erotic storytelling, or watching erotic films together to spice up their sex life.
  • Experiment with New Techniques: Encourage couples to experiment with different sexual techniques, positions, or accessories that can enhance pleasure and excitement. Trying new things can reignite passion and curiosity, even if penetrative intercourse is not always possible.
  • Seek Professional Help: If low libido persists despite self-help strategies and lifestyle changes, encourage women to seek guidance from a sex therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health. These professionals can provide individualized assessment and treatment to address underlying issues and improve sexual desire and satisfaction.
  • Focus on Sensory Stimulation: Engage the senses to heighten arousal and pleasure. Incorporate elements such as scented candles, soft music, luxurious fabrics, flavored lubricants, or aphrodisiac foods into intimate experiences to stimulate the senses and create a more sensual atmosphere.


  • Consult with a Healthcare Provider: Women experiencing low libido should consult with a healthcare provider, such as a gynecologist or primary care physician, to rule out any underlying medical conditions contributing to decreased sexual desire. Conditions such as hormonal imbalances, thyroid disorders, menopause, or certain medications can affect libido and may require medical intervention.
  • Enhance Body Confidence: Aging can bring changes in body image and self-esteem, which can impact sexual desire. Encourage women to practice self-acceptance and focus on the aspects of themselves that they appreciate and enjoy. Engaging in activities that promote body positivity, such as exercise, self-care rituals, or spending time with supportive friends, can help boost confidence and sexual self-esteem.
  • Address Sexual Pain or Discomfort: Physical discomfort during sex, such as vaginal dryness or pain, can contribute to decreased libido. Recommend using lubricants or vaginal moisturizers to alleviate dryness and discomfort and encourage women to speak with their healthcare provider about treatments for conditions such as vaginal atrophy or pelvic floor dysfunction.
  • Explore Erotic Literature or Media: Reading erotic literature, watching erotic films, or exploring online resources can help stimulate arousal and imagination. Encourage women to explore their fantasies and desires in a safe and consensual manner, either alone or with a partner.
  • Embrace Non-Sexual Intimacy: Intimacy is not limited to sexual activity. Encourage women to cultivate emotional closeness and connection with their partner through non-sexual activities such as cuddling, hugging, kissing, or engaging in meaningful conversations. Building intimacy outside of the bedroom can help foster a deeper connection and increase the desire for sexual intimacy.

At the end of the day, we have to learn the art of Intimacy (The art of touch) being present asking the right questions, and seeking answers!

You got this!


Embracing Submission

In today’s world, discussions about gender roles and relationships often stir up passionate debates and differing opinions. I recently found myself immersed in one such conversation while listening to a friend’s podcast. She was delving into the concept of female submission within relationships, advocating for the idea that allowing the masculine energy to lead can be a powerful and fulfilling choice for women. As I reflected on her words, I couldn’t help but find resonance in my own life.

The notion of submission, particularly in the context of a romantic relationship, tends to be a loaded and misunderstood one. Many people immediately associate it with a domineering “do as I say” attitude, an image that understandably raises concerns and resistance. However, my friend’s podcast made me realize that the true essence of submission when approached with balance and mutual understanding, can lead to a more harmonious and enriching connection between partners.

I consider myself a submissive woman, but it’s essential to emphasize that my submission comes with conditions. It’s not about blindly following orders or suppressing my own desires and needs. Instead, it’s a conscious choice to allow my partner to take the lead, provided he understands the delicate dance of balancing his masculine and feminine energies. In such a relationship, the phrase “your wish is my command” takes on a different meaning altogether. It becomes a beautiful expression of love, trust, and mutual respect.

For me, being submissive means allowing my partner to guide our journey together. It’s about recognizing his strengths and valuing his wisdom, just as I hope he recognizes mine. It doesn’t diminish my independence or intelligence but rather complements them. This form of submission is not about relinquishing power but sharing it, creating a partnership where both partners bring their unique qualities to the table.

The misconception surrounding submission arises from a failure to grasp its true essence. It’s not about one person wielding authority over another; it’s about nurturing a connection based on authenticity and trust. Sadly, societal conditioning often pushes us into survival mode, where we become hardened, protecting ourselves from vulnerability and the potential for heartache. In this survival mindset, we might perceive submission as a weakness when, in reality, it requires incredible strength to be vulnerable and open in a relationship.

In our quest for equality, we sometimes forget that equal does not mean identical. Men and women are inherently different, not just biologically but also in the energies they bring to a relationship. By embracing our femininity and allowing our partners to embrace their masculinity, we can create a beautiful synergy where each person’s strengths are celebrated.

I have found that submission, when done right, fosters a deep sense of intimacy. It’s about surrendering the need to control every aspect of the relationship and instead, letting love and connection flourish. It’s about communicating openly, setting boundaries, and understanding that both partners have an equal say in shaping the partnership’s direction.

In conclusion, I believe that the word “submission” should not be feared or dismissed based on its dictionary definition. It’s a concept that can be redefined and molded to fit the unique dynamics of each relationship. My personal journey has taught me that submission, when embraced with conditions that promote balance and mutual respect, can be a powerful force for building a strong, loving, and harmonious connection. It’s a choice I make willingly, with my heart wide open, because I understand that true submission is not about losing oneself but about discovering a deeper, more authentic love.